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#1 2013-11-04 09:25:02

jiggyminnie
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Re: Creepy guy friend touched me inappropriately at a bar

A couple of months ago someone who I thought was my friend touched me inappropriately while standing behind me at a bar.
To be blunt slid his fingers in between my legs, plunging his fingers into my underwear, and then along my ass.
He did it in such a fast motion that I didn't have a chance to stop him. I made up an excuse to leave my friends and the bar shortly after that happened.

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#2 2013-11-04 12:21:02

wonka
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Re: Creepy guy friend touched me inappropriately at a bar

He may have done it and barely remembers it.
That is NOT excusing the action - but before launching into a big campaign against him - if you're comfortable/feel safe about it - TALK to him.
Tell him how upset you are and make him understand that it isn't okay to do that kind of shit.
If he reacts w/ hostility and/or denial - that probably means he knows full well what he did, isn't sorry, and is pissed he got called out.
If he did it w/out thinking it through and was drunk - he'll probably be mortified, apologetic, and have learned to be vigilant of his actions.

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#3 2013-11-04 13:03:02

Eddy_q
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Re: Creepy guy friend touched me inappropriately at a bar

The thing about diminished responsibility due to alcohol-- it's bullshit. If drinking makes you more likely to commit sexual assault, you don't get to drink.
Alcohol lowers your inhibitions, and if that's the kind of thing your sober brain is inhibiting, it's your responsibility to stay the fuck sober.

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#4 2013-11-04 14:19:02

jimbored
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Re: Creepy guy friend touched me inappropriately at a bar

Since she hasn't talked to him, we don't know if he's done anything like this before.
It's entirely possible that, if he doesn't remember it, it isn't something he does regularly and he might be horrified by it, and could learn that no, he doesn't get to drink anymore.

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#5 2013-11-04 15:37:02

jiggyminnie
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Re: Creepy guy friend touched me inappropriately at a bar

A female friend has already told me she has felt weird vibes from him and has had to tell him to back off a couple of times.
I didn't even think about that until just this moment...

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